Choices or Opportunities!!
A close friend of mine said " you never give chance to let things stabilize".That comment just got stuck in my mind. I realized I just keep moving on! Be job! Be it my habits! Be it my personal life!
I always have reasons to move on. I switched my first job because I had ego issues. I like watching movies but I don't have a favorite or the one which I like the most or music which I like the most ( its the same thing as moving on because if you like something very much you would love to stick with it you'll remember it!) I am a person very much in "for the moment" But once the moment is gone I go to.
The reason why I am so ( let me generalize here,many of us) is there are various perceptions, wishes,images at play. You grab on choices or opportunities ( the so called decisions that we take) based on these perceptions,wishes,images.
Let me elaborate - See we all have a mental image of what we want in life ! we strive towards it all the time! our parents , relatives,colleagues etc. have that image ( for us) too !
Now just consider few who don't have the image of what exactly they want in specific area of life! for some they don't know what job they wanna do! for some they don't know whether they want money or reputation? just to trivialize a bit more some don't know whether they wanna do an MBA or a MS or clear IAS?
Now the only point I wanna make is if the person is not sure what he wants he'll act ( decide or to say makes a choice or grabs a opportunity) on behalf of other people's perceptions! Now it seems exaggerating. But i believe that we live in a world of human perceptions it s a matrix of perceptions !
And if you don't have your own(perception,wish,image) you gotta follow someone else's.
In my case I at times I follow the perceptions of my parents( in the areas I don't know what is right and what is right)! but I have to say maybe for me to stabilize for habits, jobs etc.. I have to clearly perceive what I want( very trivial statement to make but true none the less)! and I have to be part of other people's perceptions as well!
I guess thats why we say "accha karo sabke liye tho tumhare liye bhi accha hi hoga "
Work in progress!!
!!:p!!
Bahut saara gyan!! :p still refining!! still have to iron out inconsistencies.
7 comments:
change, evolve,mature,change,evolve,mature..
more if we ever get a chance to debate this! nice post.. needs some proofread though! :P
just to reiterate --
still refining!!still have to iron out inconsistencies!!
hey... thanks to ur blog i stumbled upon this great blog from Ria... I love her writing !! I think she has a follower!!
As I told you when I had a chat with you.. I used to think the same way when ... may be I was 22.. but then I thought more and realized, I was wrong... I thought this way when I was 18. That was the time, when I was at the crossroad of what I want to be and where I want to be... living the peer pressures and dealing with the "parents' expectations"... that was the time when whatever I did, I wanted someone approving of that... I looked for someone affirming my opinions... Some approval from friends (they are the only one's I seem to have faith in... but didnot realize .. they were indeed "just another kid of 18" .. at that time) .. that was the time, the answer to the question "what I want" was not "what I want" but "what the people around me want me to want"....
I actually bought a Red colored denim jeans because that's what one of my very dear friend said looked cool!!! I was in 9th.. 15 years old.. I indeed was an idiot !!! Now I know when I am 26 !! Phew ... 11 years to figure that out ...
:) change evolve mature :) I like that !!!
@Ria--say thanks to me!!! Phew! atleast my blog did had an impact!!
@Devanshi Waise she and you do share many specific attributes!
heheh
And as for Change Evolve mature!!
People don't change!
their perceptions about their surroundings change! perceptions about others change!! They all along know what they want but they fear to act on it...and that happens with everybody.. for some at the age of 18 and for some in their 29th year of their 26th year! when they start acting on their perceptions
And for people! parents! peer pressures and expectations!! this blog is not about that! But definitely about what someone wants!
It is about what if someone still doesn't know which color pant suits them or to say they like!! what then! There are things in life which you don't care about! and there are other thing which you care about more than yourself! That again is my perception!
As for Red pants! they do look cool on people who can carry it off!! :P
But sadly and gladly very few can!!
We all get what we want!!
:)
hahaha D .. u know wat! dont iron out the inconsistencies. let the wrinkles remain.. who wants to live a smooth consistent life anyway! change..evolve...mature! Yes i did mean this about perceptions and personalities..
Devanshi..Your name is beautiful! I m glad you liked my string of colored beads! ;)
@Ria I know thats what you meant! as in actually thats the only way out!
you don't feel comfortable with one perception! you let it go to find one which suits you! and this keeps happening all the time!
The point of contention here is "Change" People dont! :P they find perceptions to suit themselves! which in strict sense of the word can't be called as a "Change" :)
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